Don’t skip these steps when borrowing parent student loans

In more than one-third of U.S. families, parents decide how to pay for college, according to a July 2020 report from private lender Sallie Mae.

Half of those parents don鈥檛 inform the child of their decision.

Joe Allen, 51, of Frederick, Maryland, did talk about college costs with his daughter, a freshman at the University of Dayton in Ohio. But he understands why some families avoid the topic.

鈥淎s a parent, you want to protect your children,鈥� Allen says. 鈥淵ou want to do what鈥檚 best for them.鈥�

But what seems best for children may be bad for mom or dad 鈥� especially if it means taking out hefty parent student loans without discussing them. Here鈥檚 how to avoid that misstep and others when borrowing parent loans.

ASSESS YOUR SITUATION

Students should exhaust free money and federal loans in their names to pay for college. Parents can then cover remaining costs with federal parent PLUS loans or private loans.

But first, review your current financial situation with your child.

鈥淗ave a realistic sit-down with yourself and your family in terms of what (your) finances look like and what鈥檚 the best decision for you,鈥� says Rick Castellano, spokesperson for Sallie Mae.

Don鈥檛 borrow parent student loans if they鈥檒l put your retirement at risk, you鈥檙e deep in debt or you can鈥檛 afford the payments. For example, the nonprofit Trellis Company surveyed more than 59,000 parents whose children attended school in Texas and found that most said they struggled with loan repayment at some point.

HAVE A CONVERSATION

Kathleen Burns Kingsbury, a wealth psychology expert and host of the Breaking Money Silence podcast, says talking about big expenses like college tuition can make people uncomfortable and emotional.

That doesn鈥檛 mean you should avoid the conversation.

鈥淚t鈥檚 OK if people get upset,鈥� Kingsbury says. 鈥淭he pitfall is if people get upset and don鈥檛 get back to it.鈥�

Instead, use this opportunity to talk about how much you鈥檒l borrow and to teach your child how to analyze the value of a large purchase.

Allen says he went through a sample budget with his daughter to illustrate the cost of her loans and how they might limit her flexibility in the future.

He liked that the exercise made things more concrete than 鈥渏ust saying don鈥檛 take out debt.鈥�

FIGURE OUT WHO鈥橲 RESPONSIBLE

A conversation is also necessary to determine who鈥檒l repay the parent鈥檚 loans.

If your child will 鈥� and 45% of families expect the parent and child to at least share this responsibility, according to the Sallie Mae report 鈥� that can affect your decisions.

Angela Colatriano, chief marketing officer for College Ave Student Loans, says some families want the child鈥檚 name on the loan because he or she will repay it.

鈥淭hey don鈥檛 want a handshake agreement,鈥� she says.

But only the parent is legally responsible for a parent PLUS loan. You鈥檒l need to weigh that when considering borrowing options.

PLUS loans have less stringent credit requirements than private loans and offer everyone the same fixed interest rate. However, PLUS loans also have large origination fees and are available only to parents 鈥� guardians and grandparents aren鈥檛 eligible, for example.

Your ultimate goal should be getting the least expensive loan you qualify for. If that鈥檚 a PLUS loan, make sure everyone is on the same page for repayment.

Kingsbury suggests writing a simple, one-page agreement that 鈥渨ould spell out what the expectation is and what happens if there鈥檚 a conflict.鈥�

CONSIDER CO-SIGNING

Parents who prefer private loans can borrow in their name or co-sign with their child. Either option means you鈥檒l be responsible for the loan.

鈥淚t comes down to a family decision,鈥� Castellano says. 鈥淔amilies should explore both options.鈥�

But he says that co-signing can benefit students in ways that borrowing on your own can鈥檛, such as helping them build credit.

Also, because a co-signed loan has two applicants, you may get a better interest rate. However, lender underwriting policies differ.

For example, Allen initially got a much higher rate on a co-signed loan than he expected. The lender told him that was because it combined his credit score with his daughter鈥檚.

鈥淚 didn鈥檛 understand that,鈥� Allen says. 鈥淚 thought if I鈥檓 co-signing and bringing good credit to the equation it should be a better rate.鈥�

He applied with a different lender and got what he called a 鈥渕uch better鈥� rate. Allen plans to take out that loan once his family can no longer fund the education on their own.

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This article was provided to The Associated Press by the personal finance website NerdWallet. Ryan Lane is a writer at NerdWallet. Email: rlane@nerdwallet.com. Twitter: @ryanhlane.